Inside you lives an unlived life – a life that excites you, a life that wishes to see the light of day, a life where you can be yourself and pursue your dreams.

Years ago, it used to be so clear - you knew what you wanted, you knew who you were. But somewhere along the way, everything got covered under layers of dust, obscured, until you lost sight of it altogether.

But it´s not lost. It´s still with you.

With a New Year comes a chance to draw a line in the sand, to reflect, rediscover and reconnect.


Being your authenticate self is really about rediscovering yourself. It begins with asking yourself what you want out of life, what you´ve always dreamed of doing, what things you enjoy doing, what energises you, and when you have felt most authentic.

What excites you most about the future? Maybe it´s travelling the world, maybe it´s writing a book, maybe it´s taking cooking classes, maybe it´s going back to school, maybe it´s making crafts. Whatever it is, it´s time to reflect and reconnect.

So, how do you do that?

Reflecting and Reconnecting

One of the most powerful tools to help you reconnect with yourself is an exercise called Reflected Best Self.

Used in Positive Psychology programs around the world, this exercise helps you identify your skills and strengths, and will show you how and when you are at your best, as well as provide you with valuable information about how others see you, which is often not the same way we see ourselves.

The Reflected Best Self exercise is completed in three stages.

Reach Out

First, select a variety of people ranging from family, friends and colleagues to current and former bosses and ask them via email to provide three stories of when you, in their eyes, were at your best and what your positive contribution was in each story.

Contact say, around, twenty people with the goal of receiving a dozen responses. Be sure to set a deadline for the responses, for example, two weeks.

Gather Your Responses

Gather your responses and put them into a spreadsheet. This will help you analyse the responses and, more importantly, recognise patterns.

As you start to review the responses, you will immediately see common themes and you will be able to identify your skills, strengths, and qualities.

It may be surprising to discover the people in your professional life view you similarly as those in your personal life. Additionally, you may also see that you use the same skills and conduct yourself in the same manner in both your professional and personal life.

Create Your Self Portrait

With responses gathered and themes and patterns identified, it´s time to assemble your self-portrait.

In 1,500 - 2,000 words, write about your observations. What connections have you been able to make? What parallels and patterns can you see? What are the common themes personally and professionally? What character traits do you exhibit when you are at your best and what were you doing?

Many people say that the end result of their self-portrait essay resembles that of a blueprint of their authentic self.

Next Steps

Now, it´s time to use these insights and (re)discoveries and let them act as your compass. How can you utilise these skills and traits? Can you use these insights to redesign your work life? How can you be this person every day? What personal and professional situations will allow you to be this way all the time?

At FerratumBank, we believe in encouraging people to pursue the things in life that matter most. Our goal is to enable people, to inspire people, and help people live the lives they wish to lead.

It´s time to be your best self.

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